Review on the Pre-Marriage Workshop for Deaf on last May, 2010

(Thank you to Lucy, Jessica, interpreters, and the speakers of sessions, and Rachel & YQ help to take photos)
Lucy invited me to attend the Pre-Marriage Workshop through an email. So, I reviewed this about what we learned from this workshop. It can help to increase the deaf awareness about Deaf marriage. All of you sure want to know what are about the marriage and what to do with this workshop when we attend this workshop, right? I heard from my best friend about many Deaf parent get to divorce each other, due to their issues such as mature not enough, financial money, or abuse, love problem, not comfortable with a partner's lifestyle, stress works, lack trust & love and many...

That is why they prepare to educate the singles, couples, engaged couples and newlyweds in the skills, habits, attitudes, and enrichment techniques that research shows lead to happy, enduring marriages.

According to the marriage research, many partner get happy and found a right guy/woman in their 2rd marriage after divorce with 1st partner on first time. Why? They learn the mistake from their past marriage...

Do you ever worry about divorce and will break up with your partner? You may be aware a problem exists between you and your partner because you have chosen to be committed to each other, want to resolve it before you marry...

During this workshop, we got the opportunity to identify how:

• Understanding and strong communication skills
• resolve misunderstanding and conflict
• Identify and build on your relationship strengths
• Understand about the religion's marriages
• Explore what is TRUE Love?
• Personality issues
• Financial management
• Role relationship between husband and wife

If they want to stay together, they need to build the trust back up in the relationship and many ways which can lighten their problem. They need to explore the reasons to discuss about their issues.

They can learn each other when they can plan ways to manage money, your household, balancing work and togetherness, and dealing with possible intrusive family members and friends. Eg. the husband and wife can help each other to reduce stress in a house. From the marriage research - modern days now, why a husband love to help wife do the household, such as like cooking or clean house? Because the husbands believe that it can help to make them get long -lived and can low the blood pressure of heart. And it can lead to you grow together with happy marriage. 

I think that Session 2: Getting to know you that are very laughable and funny, so it is fun to learn about our identify of personality! My friends and I enjoy to play this game personality about four animals; lion, otter, beaver, and golden retriver dog.You sure know that what is this meaning behind the animals' personality? :D After we explored our personality, I am Otter! because I am creative, enjoyed to change, friendly, energetic and fun-loving person! We also enjoyed to learn about our friends' personality with jokes! Both partners need to see & know more about themselves. What about you?


It make both partner realise what are their personality and feel comfortable each other. They can share different or same interest in their life. Eg. In their lifestyle, a guy learn what she like, he can share with her. A girl will like his food when she try to eat his favorite food. Until they like each other if they learn more about their personal interest. Maybe? But, its good to know what thing that a partner don't like! Haha!

For me, this workshop are very educational and fun! We don't get boring while they try their best to give their session. They also answer the participators' question. Sometimes, we also joke each other and give our funny & stupid question! And I learned new things, eg. Hindu's marriage about believing same souls can meet each again in present and past...

More fun about the Session 6: Remember It's good to talk. It helps you communicate better in your marriage. Communication is extremely important to build good relationship. It make you understand each other’s views on marriage and family. Funny, they asked the question about what are you doing with your partner when you both dating or couple always go together...! The participants also give different of answers...and sometimes joke...Maybe they are shy? :P

The participants' comments after what they learn from this workshop:

"We can use it as 'panduan' then we get to know about it better than regret or divorce. So, it guides us despite we know that it is a common issue of cases,at least it give us the guideline. That is why we gain good benefits." - TWK

"Saya sedar banyak pengetahuan berbeza perangai dan bagaimana selesaikan masalah keluarga dan kawan termasuk SENDIRI.. Kalau ceramah workshop tidak wujud.. dah pasti banyak orang buat kesilapan seperti bercerai dan kehilangan kawan baik." - YQ

"Pre-Marriage Workshop have good experience of how this workshop for the future means that we will be ready to plan the money, get married, new home and family life. For me okay but sometimes I was so sleepy and bored little in the workshop of 2 days because there is little activity related to the title only...But, I prefer learning about Session 2: Getting to know you, Session 3: Finance and The family and Session 6: Remember It's good to talk!" - RL

From this workshop, we learned the interesting topics and we know that  the communicate is very  important that help you both can understand each other, you all try to make good solution, for example, you both can make the family of discussion meeting. Many deaf people are curious to ask the question about a Deaf can dating with a hearing guy/girl or not?

(Sorry! I forget to put this review here, I don't noticed that my old review keep in my other blog, Selina's Wing!)